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Post by Dominique on Jun 5, 2007 5:17:09 GMT -5
that makes sense It's just a thought I have though, it probably won't actually influence when I have kids, I'd say I will have them when it becomes suitable for me to have them
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Post by zeldafitzgerald on Jun 5, 2007 7:16:21 GMT -5
In Michigan, where all my family and most of my friends are from, it's normal to get married anywhere from 21-25 (after college). People from my hometown sometimes get married even younger! 18-20, right after high school.
But in New York, even 25 is considered way too young. It's a very strange culture difference. 30 is the age to START thinking about who you want to marry.
Also, weddings here are SO intense (and expensive). In Michigan, bridal showers are very low key - the Bride's family usually hosts it at a home, with yummy food and fun games. Here, the Bridesmaids are expected to throw a very "nice" shower - with catered food, usually at a restaurant or event space. And they are expected to pay for it!!
It's so different and weird!
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Post by Bina on Jun 5, 2007 9:52:19 GMT -5
Wow, that´s a huge difference. I will never have a big wedding because I like mine to be private, just family and close friends. Not people I only see a couple of times a year. So no money problems Jobs are hard to find here especially with my major so I´ll probably move around a bit and I´d hate to do that to husband and kids.
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Post by Michelle on Jun 5, 2007 13:59:26 GMT -5
Jobs are hard to find here especially with my major so I´ll probably move around a bit and I´d hate to do that to husband and kids. That's the problem that we are facing right now. But since we have to be apart, I'm glad we have a marriage to fall back on.
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Post by Isa on Jun 5, 2007 14:45:06 GMT -5
I can understand that, Syl and I lived in different cities for 3 years after we got married and I do think being married helped us get through it because there never was any doubt that we'd live together again at some point. I don't think we could have done it with kids, though...
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Post by Michelle on Jun 5, 2007 14:50:08 GMT -5
Yeah. Kids would probably make it impossible - plus it's not really fair to keep them from one parent if you don't have to.
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Post by Isa on Jun 5, 2007 19:29:24 GMT -5
;D We paid for our wedding so that solved the problem!
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Post by Kristie on Jun 6, 2007 14:28:53 GMT -5
I definitely do not make enough money to pay for even probably the smallest part of a wedding. If this isn't too intrusive a question, how much did you spend on your wedding, Jefie? (Or memccart...)
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Post by Isa on Jun 6, 2007 14:49:55 GMT -5
About $10,000 - we saved a lot by getting married in a small town, and marriage is not a "business" in Canada the way it is in the US, so people won't overcharge you for a cake or a DJ. For example, there was no cost for the reception hall since we were having dinner there, and because so many of our guests were staying at the hotel, we got the honeymoon suite for free, things like that... Oh, and we didn't have any money so we used our student loans to pay for it ;D
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Post by Nathalie on Jun 7, 2007 16:39:13 GMT -5
i just read this on some board and thought of this thread, so i'm just going to post it.
SPOILERS!!!
"TVGuide.com: How do you feel about Logan (Matt Czuchry) and Rory’s breakup and how the series ended in general? Alexis Bledel: I guess it’s not what people might have expected as far as their relationship goes, but it’s something that happens to a lot of people when they graduate from school and go off to start their lives elsewhere. I think it’s a make-or-break [time] for a lot of relationships. I felt pretty strongly that I wanted my character to finish up somewhere that we would have liked to see her finish when the whole story started, because she was so driven and academic and I wanted to return to that in some ways. She did get pretty caught up in [the] relationship — in her relationships with guys in general, not that that’s a bad thing — but it seemed to end on a strong note. She made a choice that was very true to herself."
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Post by zeldafitzgerald on Jun 11, 2007 0:36:09 GMT -5
I agree with what Alexis said about Rory. Taking back control of her own life was definitely being true to Rory. I'm really glad that she didn't end up marrying Logan. That would have felt wrong somehow. She's got her whole life ahead of her. (And, as I like to imagine, her whole life to re-unite with Jess )
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Post by tahlia on Jun 16, 2007 14:15:37 GMT -5
im so happy i found this thread, i just got engaged about a month ago, im so excited! i love reading about weddings, gives me so many ideas. hehehe awesome topic
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Post by Nathalie on Jun 16, 2007 15:36:37 GMT -5
congratulations
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