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Post by bookaddict on Dec 2, 2006 16:33:17 GMT -5
I'm not sure. I come from a traditional family, my parents have been married for 28 years. I think I would like to know because of health problems. If he's a really bad person then I'd like to know some of his family. My dad was adopted by his aunt and he always knew his mother and other siblings. My dad was adopted because his real mother was very sick, and she had twins. So his aunt raised them.
I think I'd tell him that he doesn't have to to be a father, but I'd like to know about his family. Plus, people change he could be a changed person and want to get to know his child.
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Post by Kristie on Dec 2, 2006 16:37:57 GMT -5
yeah, i think it's wrong to not tell someone that they're going to be a father. (and i wouldn't tell them on a stupid talk show like jerry springer.) who knows...if you don't tell him thinking it's better because he wouldn't stick around, you may have greatly misjudged him. i know that nick and i talked about what would happen if we got pregnant and he would stick by me. and i believe him. and i think that i would want to know about my father, even if he is a horrible person. i'd hate growing up not knowing something that important. and i'd want him to know about me. my family is traditional too (parents been together for 26 years)
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Post by bookaddict on Dec 2, 2006 17:10:08 GMT -5
I agree Kristie.
Daniel and I have talked about getting pregnant too. We would definatly keep a baby, and we know we would be fine because of our families. We both have huge, close families and they would help us out. We have a stable relationship, and we're not married because we want a big wedding to have all our families with us. We live with my parents because it's better for us while i'm in school. My parents also lived with my grandfather when they first got married, and Daniel's parents did the same thing.
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Post by Kristie on Dec 4, 2006 18:16:47 GMT -5
couples living with a set of parents doesn't happen too often around where i live. at least i never really hear of it. i'm not saying it's bad, it's sometimes the smartest thing to do. my older sister is dating a guy that has his own house already and she basically lives there and my parents have given up on the "rules" they once had i think haha. i don't think nick and i'll live together until after we're married because our parents aren't like yours. we may have an apartment before we get married actually because we'll get married after nick graduates which is a semester after i do because of his huge courseload. but yeah, our parents aren't cool enough to allow that.
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Post by bookaddict on Dec 5, 2006 9:30:25 GMT -5
yeah i'm happy that we live with my parents. You learn a lot living with someone. olur parents khave known each other since before we were born. They felt that it would be better for us to live with them while i'm in school, because it would be better for us financially, which it is. Atleast now we get a chance to pick up all the stuff that we need to move out, before we do move out. It worked out good....we are definatly excitex to get a place of our own, once I graduate.
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Post by Kristie on Dec 5, 2006 11:06:25 GMT -5
i'm prolly going to own all the christmas decorations i need for my own house before i even leave my family haha. nick's gonna get an apartment with a few guys next year so he'll get more logical stuff like pots and pans and that stuff
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Post by Bina on Dec 5, 2006 14:08:14 GMT -5
I hated practical stuff for presents but when I moved I had to buy everything! Now I buy something for my apartment every month.
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Post by Isa on Dec 9, 2006 15:12:23 GMT -5
I think living together before getting married is a must - I've seen so many couples break up after moving in together because being together 24/7 and dealing with bills and chores is not the easiest thing to do. I think if you wait until you're married then it's even worst because you feel trapped if things don't work out the way you thought they would. I think that's why a lot older people got divorced - my parents are the perfect example: they were madly in love, got married, but when they started living together things went down hill. They stuck together because of my sister and I but as soon as we left home they got divorced.
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Post by bookaddict on Dec 9, 2006 18:36:46 GMT -5
I also think that couples should live together before marriage. Living together changes a lot of things. I also think that when Daniel and I got our dog we learned a lot about each other. A dog is a big responsibility.
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Post by Paige on Dec 9, 2006 22:54:13 GMT -5
i think its a good idea too but for me...my parents wouldnt be very happy if my boyfriend and i moved in together before we were married. i know it would be my decision but having your parents support is always nice.
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Post by Kristie on Dec 10, 2006 11:51:18 GMT -5
same here, pixiedust87. my parents are the same, and nick's are even worse
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Post by bookaddict on Dec 15, 2006 20:04:50 GMT -5
I'm getting the impression that a lot of Americans are really old-school traditional. Like thinking Harry Potter is evil because of witchcraft and not living together before marriage. Is it because your state is very religious?
This is not to offend antyone, I certainly don't want that. This is just my impression. Is it an individual household thing, or more widespread?
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Post by Bina on Dec 16, 2006 9:28:06 GMT -5
I always thought it was just a prejudice people have about America. But thinking Harry Potter is evil is a bit creepy.
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Post by bookaddict on Dec 16, 2006 10:01:15 GMT -5
I've heard that some American States are really religious, and I would think that would have something to do with these issues. I'm sure we have Canadians who think the same way on certain topics, but it never seems like an issue in Canada.
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Post by neh on Dec 16, 2006 19:21:33 GMT -5
I've just been reading through all this, and i'm just fascinated to wacth you guys discuss.. so i'm gonna sit back, hehe! But i am pro-choice with regards to abortion for sure, even though i know that were in the situation, it would be very hard to actually say yes to the procedure. And i too am also very interested in the diverse religious stances that are projected in the media and such with regards to certain areas of the U.S. - I think bookaddict was very astute in asking that question. I too don't mean to offend anyoine; just curious. The whole Harry Potter thign certainly makes me mad though... poor little Haz... he cops so much, both in the fictional world in which he resides and in the "real world" that is presented with his stories!
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