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Post by bookaddict on Nov 10, 2006 18:42:28 GMT -5
I think it depends on the person, and the situation.
My dad was adopted by his aunt, so he knew is mother and siblings. That was a good alternative.
I think too many people panic, and don't look for support or don't have the support. People choose abortion for reasons that make sense to them.
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Post by zeldafitzgerald on Nov 10, 2006 21:30:52 GMT -5
Personally, if I was ever in the situation I think it would be harder to give my child up for adoption than to have an abortion. They can do abortions so quick, before 12 weeks you can use the abortion pill (and I agree with you Kristie, partial birth abortion is not a good situation, and I'm not a supporter of that....you should know by then if you want to have it or not). I would feel worse about giving a child away, not knowing what happened to it or what kind of parents it has.
Also, I'm not even sure I want to have kids when I'm actually *ready* to. I need this world to improve dramatically before I want to bring another human into it. There is so much uncertainty and fear with wars and terrorism and awful things, especially including global warming and the current US government who refuses to acknowledge it as a problem. I just don't want to bring a kid into this world until the future looks a little brighter. (note: not trying to say that at this point (I'm 22) that I would have an abortion if I became pregnant, but just that I'm not about to TRY until things improve). Just general musings.
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Post by czarval on Nov 10, 2006 23:27:53 GMT -5
I think it depends on the person, and the situation. I agree with that. You just never know what you will do until you get into that situation.
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Post by Kristie on Nov 11, 2006 12:26:32 GMT -5
it's a shame that so many teenagers are getting pregnant nowadays. i mean, when i was in 10th grade, there were 3 freshman girls who were pregnant. i mean come on! in my grade we had 2 girls that got pregnant, but they were at least old enough to drive (not that that makes it any better, but they were older (so they should have been wiser)). i used to wish that girls could just like not start their periods until they were married or something so it's impossible for them to get pregnant. of course, that would mean that everyone would be sexaholics or something...
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Post by Isa on Nov 11, 2006 13:38:02 GMT -5
And just think that for one girl who gets pregnant, there are like 5 who get infected with an STD...
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Post by zeldafitzgerald on Nov 11, 2006 13:42:40 GMT -5
And just think that for one girl who gets pregnant, there are like 5 who get infected with an STD... seriously.....the demographic that is getting AIDS the fastest now is straight, young females. the best sex ed class I had was part of a college bio class. the professor had a slideshow of people/parts infected with STDs. huge pictures on a 30 foot projector screen. very good way to get your point across.
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Post by Kristie on Nov 11, 2006 14:08:46 GMT -5
i don't know how i would really like it if my significant other had previously had sex because of all of those STDs out there. i mean, my current boyfriend/future husband and i both hadn't had serious relationships before where that could have happened, so we've only ever been with each other. it's a comfort to know that if he does have an STD it's from his parents, not from whoring around. and he feels the same.
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Post by Dominique on Nov 11, 2006 18:26:59 GMT -5
Yeah I think it's very difficult for people still in school to get pregnant and not have an abortion. Because there are so many young girls getting pregnant I think it's important that abortions are still available to women.
The same for rape victims. As a side bit of info, my mum is a nurse and she says that most of the time women who get raped don't fall pregnant because of how violent rape is, it affects whether or not they concieve somehow, I'm not really sure how that works exactly.
But while I'm pro-choice I think abortion should be avoided unless the circumstances make it necessary or the best option.
I think for me adoption would be easier than abortion, because while abortion is quick and you don't have the time to see your baby or anything like that, I would know I was giving them a chance at life, I guess.
What you said about your partner Kristie is the same with me and my partner, I like having that peace of mind too.
It's scary how sexually active a lot of people are nowadays, and they're getting younger and younger. Apparently my town has the highest rate of clymidia (sp?) infections in the state.
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Post by Dominique on Nov 11, 2006 18:29:43 GMT -5
an aside bit of trivia, do you know Jack Nicholson didn't find out that who he thought was his mother was actually his grandmother and who he thought was his sister was his mother until a paper reported it? how crazy would that be?
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Post by bookaddict on Nov 11, 2006 18:31:22 GMT -5
it's a comfort to know that if he does have an STD it's from his parents, not from whoring around. and he feels the same. agreed I also think that while it is important to have it as an option, I think counselling should be a must, before having an abortion. A friend of mine went to the school clinic to have a test done, and as soon as she got a positive result...the nurse gave her a bunch of abortion pamphlets. I don't agree with that. I think they should only be given when asked for. Or given as one of many options. Alot of girls feel overwhelmed at first, and to be given this as an option right away might seem like an easy way out.
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Post by zeldafitzgerald on Nov 11, 2006 18:36:52 GMT -5
It's scary how sexually active a lot of people are nowadays, and they're getting younger and younger. Apparently my town has the highest rate of clymidia (sp?) infections in the state. it's really getting scary. a friend of mine went home and his parents were not home and his younger sister was throwing a party and there was actually an orgy going on. (!!!!) and I agree with the above comments, I'm very glad I don't have to worry about my partner's background. and the more I think about it, the more I have no idea whether I think abortion or adoption would be harder, I've never been through either. It's not something you can give a very educated opinion about until you go through it. I'm extremely glad that now, being older, I really wouldn't need to make either choice. I definitely want to wait to have kids, but accidentally getting pregnant now would not be such a big deal, as I've graduated both high school and college and am in a committed relationship.
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Post by Dominique on Nov 11, 2006 18:40:08 GMT -5
yeah I feel the same
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Post by Isa on Nov 11, 2006 20:11:41 GMT -5
As a side bit of info, my mum is a nurse and she says that most of the time women who get raped don't fall pregnant because of how violent rape is, it affects whether or not they concieve somehow, I'm not really sure how that works exactly. That would make sense, for a lot of women who are having trouble getting pregnant, the problem is stress related.
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Post by bethany88 on Nov 12, 2006 7:53:37 GMT -5
I know that a lot of people say that abortion is okay in rape situations and I'm not totally disagreeing with that but where I live ( ontario) if you go to the hospitial if youve been raped when they're doing a rape kit the "CLean" out the lining of your insides just incase. This way it's gone right from the start and well in my opinion its not murder because its basically like what 3hours old?? They do this to make the patient feel clean. They never know if they would have been pregnant at all nor would the medical staff.
I think that this is a good solution I wouldnt consider this practise wrong. I'm not exactualy sure how it works like if they tell the patient what they're really doing or anything like that. But i assume that if you went in after beign raped and you didnt want them to do that they wouldnt. It's kinda confusing but I think its smart
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Post by Bina on Nov 12, 2006 12:55:35 GMT -5
Yeah, but I heard it doesn´t always work. I think they get the pill after (whatever it´s called in English) so if women have the possibility to see a doctor after the rape, chances they get pregnant are slim.
There weren´t any cases of pregnancies in my school or area nor diseases, everyone is very careful with protection. I think if I chose not to abort I would just keep it since I have family support and everything but the thing is I´d have to stop my studies because I can only miss a class twice and continuing later with a baby is very unlikely. I mean it can be done by I don´t think I could do it. So I would consider abortion, I don´t think it´s murder and I´m not religious.
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