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Post by annalovesbooks1983 on Sept 3, 2009 15:53:59 GMT -5
Okay..so Im single and Im really wanting to meet some new guys, not necessarily boyfriend material but Id like to get the chance to at least chat and befriend more guys, I live in a city
Does anyone have any good creative, or even a little out there stories about good ways to befriend guys, or to get to know more, You know every morning on my way to work I see so many people dashing around getting along with their lives...Sometimes it makes me think Strangers are just friends waiting to happen...anyone got good tips on making friends and befriending people, but especially with getting to know guys-Id love to have the confidence to just walk up to a random guy in a book store and start chatting about a book he is reading, Anyone ever done anything like that?
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Post by Dominique on Sept 3, 2009 20:19:32 GMT -5
If he's holding a book you've read or no something about you could say something like oh that's really good or I've heard that's really good to start a coversation. I'm not really going to be that much help, I met my boyfriend at school so nowhere interesting I think most of my friends met their boyfriends through other friends, I think that's pretty much the easiest way to meet guys or new people in general. Maybe encourage your girlfriends to invite any of their friends to the bar or wherever you're going instead of just the circle of friends you're in?
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Post by Isa on Sept 4, 2009 5:34:04 GMT -5
There's always the option of joining an evening class - you might meet some single guys there you share an interest with AND learn something useful at the same time so it's a win-win situation ;D If you're into sports, you could join a local mixed team (volleyball, soccer, frisbee...?) or look for hiking groups. Also, if you like to travel, I know that there are companies that specialize in organizing tours for single travelers - the goal is not necessarily to hook up with someone, but you never know who you might meet!
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Post by oureternity on Sept 5, 2009 6:40:09 GMT -5
I know a lot of my friends met their boyfriends at work, and I met some guys while I was working too at a coffee shop. I guess it depends where you're working but generally work is a good way to meet guys .
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Post by ace on Oct 26, 2012 9:20:21 GMT -5
This is a really old topic but Im in the same boat. I used to be the girl who never cared she had a boyfriend or about meeting guys but lately its bothering me im 21 and never had a boyfriend. I go to college, and theres a couple cute guys in some of my classes but they either have girlfriends or are a bit old for me. Plus I never really get talking with anyone, I just feel it would be awkward at this point to sit down next to someone and start chatting. I never see anyone reading recreationally at college
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Post by lostinwonders on Oct 27, 2012 10:43:50 GMT -5
Oh, Ace!! I am just in the same case as you: 21 and never had a boyfriend. I don't care most of the time but at my uni, most of the girls and boys aren't single anymore and it is beginning to be sort of depressing. I mean I am really asking what is the problem about me. I think it is because I don't have much time to go out. I am very serious about my uni work and I commute everyday between home and uni (which means 4 hours in the public transport... Moreover, I am quite shy and never get talking with anyone...
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Post by ace on Oct 27, 2012 14:09:17 GMT -5
Oh, Ace!! I am just in the same case as you: 21 and never had a boyfriend. I don't care most of the time but at my uni, most of the girls and boys aren't single anymore and it is beginning to be sort of depressing. I mean I am really asking what is the problem about me. I think it is because I don't have much time to go out. I am very serious about my uni work and I commute everyday between home and uni (which means 4 hours in the public transport... Moreover, I am quite shy and never get talking with anyone... Right? I know what you mean I just always hear everyone talking about doing things at the weekend etc with they boyfriend/girlfriend, and Im always studying or just doing something by myself like shopping. I dont like how insecure its making me as well. Like my friend in my german class is a couple years younger than me and has a boyfriend, and ill be like what does she have that I don't have? Wow, so like 2 hours each way? That is quite a commute Im the same like it doesnt help I dont really have many friends to begin with, so nobody can introduce me to someone or something. I kind of lost touch with people, or found my friends got flaky. I really hope this year back in college I can meet a nice guy, or maybe when I start a new job. I just feel like you re only young once, and im never gonna meet someone
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Post by lostinwonders on Oct 31, 2012 7:52:51 GMT -5
Yes, that is quite a commute, for sure! But on the train, I work or I read. So, it is okay (I have never read so much in one month). I am just a bit stressed out for the moment because of an assignment of 15-20 pages to write in Corporate Law. College will probably help you for this You will make new and good friends and if you are not too shy, it will be ok. For me, the most difficult is probably not to be intimidated when speaking with a boy. I mean I don't even have male friends because I have the feeling that everyone around me will be looking at me just like I want to date him... I think I have to put that out of my mind and just be social and it will probably be ok.
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Post by Carma on Nov 4, 2012 7:34:29 GMT -5
Is it that you want to have a boyfriend because everyone else has one, of is it because you miss the company? I feel like a lot of people get into the boyfriend/girlfriend thing because that's what were all supposed to do! But maybe I'm just telling myself this because I am also boyfriendless at 24 and it always surprises people? But I never really cared much about boys, or I just didn't like the ones that wanted to ask me out... and now I never really meet any boys though. I am also usually busy with schoolwork and there are also mostly girls in all of my classes. But I always feel that it will happen when it will happen. At least, I don't feel like actively going on a hunt!
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Post by ace on Nov 4, 2012 10:01:54 GMT -5
Is it that you want to have a boyfriend because everyone else has one, of is it because you miss the company? I feel like a lot of people get into the boyfriend/girlfriend thing because that's what were all supposed to do! But maybe I'm just telling myself this because I am also boyfriendless at 24 and it always surprises people? But I never really cared much about boys, or I just didn't like the ones that wanted to ask me out... and now I never really meet any boys though. I am also usually busy with schoolwork and there are also mostly girls in all of my classes. But I always feel that it will happen when it will happen. At least, I don't feel like actively going on a hunt! I know what you mean. Growing up I was always the girl who was happy being single and never felt like I 'needed' a guy to feel complete. Now I guess I would like a boyfriend, because I would like the company, I would like someone who I can spend time with and share stuff with and talk to, and just because I have never experienced it before. I just feel like you are only young once as well. People always say stuff like oh your time will come and it will just happen but it feels like you are waiting forever. I would also like more friends, Im quite a solitary person.
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Post by lostinwonders on Nov 20, 2012 3:55:42 GMT -5
I think I would like a boyfriend for the company too. Sharing things, discussing and so on. But it is clear that what the others do has on impact. I mean that if everything around us was boyfriendless, it wouldn't bother us that much. We will think that is normal and that it will come later. But as time goes by, it starts bugging you as in "what the hell is wrong with me???". Actually, we are probably wrong of thinking that way. Not having a boyfriend now isn't the prove of something weird about us. It is maybe just maturity and just waiting for the good one (and not dating and dating and dating without real feelings). But still, it is sometimes bugging me. I agree with you Ace. Sometimes, it feels like we are waiting forever and forever and forever...
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Post by ace on Dec 29, 2012 0:08:19 GMT -5
I finally met a guy! But we are not dating yet. A few weeks ago my college course had a Christmas party and we got to talking. Since then we have texting back and forth and chatting online almost every day. It's nice we just laugh and I feel like we talk about anything The whole time I wasn't sure if he was just being friendly but then he admitted he was flirting with me. Today he asked me to go to a party on new year's eve with him. So fingers crossed it's fun He's really into books as well, he loves Hunter S Thompson. I don't want to get my hopes up though, with my luck he probably just sees me as a friend.
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